Let me preface this entry by saying, again, that I was raised Catholic. I attended Catholic schools and I attended Catholic Mass for most, if not all, of my formative years. It is the position of the Catholic Church that sex outside of marriage is a sin. I believed that all the way up until my first day at college. Then, I pathetically crumbled under peer pressure.
Nowadays, here in the U.S., sex outside of marriage is generally accepted, and in some quarters, perhaps even encouraged (after all, you need practice, don’t you?). Many young people these days would probably look at you strangely if you suggested there was something wrong with sex.
So, what’s the deal? Is sex a form of recreation? Or a sacred act belonging strictly in the bounds of marriage? Or something in between? I don’t think it is my place to answer these questions for others primarily because no one wants to hear the opinion of someone like me because, well, I’m insane and my insane beliefs inform upon my position here. 🙂
I’m inclined to say that God made sex a sin to guarantee that everyone would be a sinner. Even if you’ve never had sex (you are in a shrinking minority), what is it Jesus said? “He who looks at a woman with lust in his eye has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” With that as the standard, everyone is guilty of adultery at some level. I know I am. I’ve lusted after married women, single women, and multiple women … basically I’m a guy; there’s a part of me that wants to sleep with the entire female half of the eastern seaboard. At the same time. That doesn’t mean that I should act on these impulses.
But is sex really a sin? I’m probably the wrong person to ask because of my bizarre Theory of Satan. Basically, Satan is the universe and as a result, this universe is steeped in sin. I believe sex outside of marriage is a sin. In fact, I believe sex is a sin. Period. Inside of marriage, outside of marriage, whatever. I believe eating is sinful. I believe breathing is sinful. And that’s just the beginning. Good luck trying to avoid those sins. To be fair, though, most of those sins I just listed don’t even rank as venial sins; no, I would classify them as something else, maybe “trivial” sins. Because surely God is a compassionate God and if breathing is sinful, he understands how difficult (impossible) it would be to try to avoid doing that.
Is there a reason to even list such trivial sins if they cannot be avoided? Well, it does emphasize the fact that we are all sinners. And perhaps, that is something worth remembering.