Satan is a Liar. And Jesus Christ is the Lord. Repent and be saved. Yeah, I know you’ve heard it before. But have you ever heard it from the antichrist before?
Lust. That horrible evil sin so repugnant to the Catholic Church. What is there to say about it? Once upon a time, I had a friend who, trying to encourage me with my fumbling initial attempts to approach women, said, “Lust is good!” Was he right? He was right about other things, but I think he was wrong there. All adults know what lust is. Without it, procreation might be a little more difficult to initiate. Anyway, there is a moral aspect to lust, in my view. I do not think it is the sin to end all sin. But I do think it is important to recognize that lust tends to pervert one’s view of another human being to be something as simply an object and not someone to relate to.
I think it worthwhile to talk about lust because of a phenomenon I call “reverse relativism.” Yeah, that makes no sense. It’s basically this: if you talk about something (like lust), those who hear your words may identify with what you say and draw strength from your weakness (and strength in confessing your weakness) in a manner sufficient to help them with their own struggles with the same something. For example, once upon a time, as a teenager struggling with lust, I read St. Augustine’s “Confessions” and learned about that great saint’s own struggles and even escapades with lust. I drew some comfort from that, because I realized I was not alone with my struggles, that even SAINT Augustine struggled with it.
However, I think it worth noting that “Reverse Relativism” can work in two directions. You can confess a sin and, instead of helping lift someone higher when they hear your confession it can, perhaps, encourage that person to “wallow in the mire,” so to speak. I’ll just leave that there for now. I will discuss reverse relativism in a later post.
Anyway, I think it worthwhile to rank and discuss the sins of lust.
Lustful Thoughts
I have had plenty of lustful thoughts. So I am guilty of this sin. “If a man looks at a woman with lust in his eye, he has already committed adultery with her in his thoughts.” (Matthew 5:28) Why did Jesus say this? Was it to emphasize that no one could be that good and live up to the standard he is advocating for? Or is the standard fine as something to shoot for, but you must realize it convicts all of us of at least this sin. So the saying “All men are sinners” is true and this standard can be used to demonstrate that.
Masturbation
Done this, too (You probably didn’t want to know that. Of course, I am a guy so you probably could have just assumed.). Masturbation, I think, is one step worse than mere lustful thoughts. I don’t think it is a huge deal, but it is certainly gross to contemplate and probably shouldn’t be discussed in normal conversations outside the bounds of a Confessional (or a therapist, maybe) unless there is some overriding reason (a massive guilt complex or what-have-you). Should it be encouraged as I have read from some secular sources? I’m inclined to say no. Perhaps it can help improve one’s performance in bed but I still think it is a surrender to lust that is better off avoided.
Pornography
Done this, too (Again, you probably didn’t want to know that either. But again, I am a guy. And a crazy one to boot). Pornography is the next step up in severity. With the advent of the Internet it is readily available. And it can easily become addictive. Again, one of the worst aspects of this sin of lust, I think, is the objectification of the people viewed.
Fornication
Never done this. Perhaps that makes me inexperienced, but, oh well. It really wasn’t by choice. I’m just terrible with women. There were a number of years when I would have done this, but just never got the chance to because, like I said, I’m terrible with women. Nowadays, well, I have severe antichrist issues among other things, but you never know. Regardless, I would say this is a step worse than pornography. Hmmm … actually this may be a bit more nuanced. In particular, if two unmarried people are in love and have sex—I don’t think that’s much of a severe sin and pornography may be worse than that in comparison. I don’t know. Sexual hedonism, though, when sex becomes a sport? That, I think, is morally worse than pornography. Oh, if you don’t know, fornication is an archaic word referring to two unmarried individuals having sex.
Prostitution
Never done this either (although a friend of mine and myself once talked about it many years ago, we never went through with it). Again, this is a step worse than fornication. By definition, it is the paying of one individual by another individual for sex.
Adultery
Never done this either. This is basically fornication where at least one individual involved is married to someone other than the other individual. As marriage is supposed to be sacred, I would rate this as something worse than prostitution.
Rape
Never done this, either. This is basically forcing sex acts upon another individual. At this point, you’ve reached a very hideous level of depravity. Rape is an act of lust and it is purely evil. They say that there are other psychological factors like domination or what-have-you involved, but I think the root is still based on raw lust. Then again, I am not a psychologist or psychiatrist or any -ist. In the United States this is a crime, as it should be.
What Should the Individual Do About It?
If you agree that lust is a negative instinct then, clearly, one should try to control it and resist it, or whatever. As the sexual instinct is second only to the survival instinct, you have your work cut out for you. I’m still trying to figure out how to handle my own lust. Religiously speaking, as a Catholic (sort of), my options include prayer, fasting, and Confession. Thanks to Covid, and an unfortunate scheduling issue that resulted, I haven’t been able to do much in the way of Confession since this past March. Anyway, I will persevere.
What Should Society Do About It?
I think the first thing we need to do is recognize that the sexual instinct is the second most powerful instinct in the human animal. As a result, I think we should put an asterisk next to every sexual scandal that occurs and even, to a certain extent, sexual crimes. Politicians are only human, after all, and I doubt many of us would pass the litmus test if we demand sexual purity from those who wish to serve. As for sexual crimes, they are still crimes and they should still be punished, but we have to find some way to take into account the relentless drive that can overwhelm all reason and decision-making ability. Also, it is important to realize children look up to adults. At the moment, it seems our society is either glorifying all forms of sexual behavior or just being nonchalant about them. At one point, the secular standard was consenting adults, but for the past thirty, forty years it seems to have started morphing into anything goes. First, consenting adults; then, teens will have sex anyway; then, threesomes are great; then, orgies are an option for “swingers.” (To be honest, there is a part of me that finds the notions of threesomes and orgies appealing, but that part, generally, doesn’t control how I behave and I know better). Now, there are even attempts being made to legitimize pedophilia.
Anyway, the point I’m trying to make is that we, adults, have to take back society. I don’t know how. But I’m quite sure pedophilia should be illegal; and, at the very least, orgies and threesomes should be discouraged. Because children, to a certain extent, will follow the path of adults. Sexual hedonism is not a morally virtuous pursuit.
Satan is a Liar. And Jesus Christ is the Lord. Repent and be saved. Yeah, I know you’ve heard it before. But have you ever heard it from the antichrist before?